When Love is a One-Night Stand
September 12, 2004
When I was younger I couldn't understand what women wanted.
This is because women themselves didn't know.
Feminism told them to be independent, to have careers and lovers. But their instincts told them to get married and have children.
Recently Mary, an American woman living in London England wrote:
I am 39, twice divorced, childless and could not understand why it is so difficult for me to find Mr Right. Thanks to your website now I know exactly why. I will show one of your articles to my lady friends [who] are very unhappy and complain that most of the men they meet (and we are talking about men over the age of 30, not 15) just want sex and refuse to commit. I have become spiritual as a result of my loneliness and eagerness to procreate.
In the meantime I will read your articles faithfully and thank God that someone has the guts to come out with the truth. For the past five years I kept asking myself why my life has turned out as unfulfilling as it has whereas my mother didn't have that problem (she was born in 1929).
Mary is one of millions of men and women (including myself) who do not have families because of a covert campaign of psychological warfare waged against heterosexual society. This Rockefeller-sponsored program of social engineering and eugenics is waged under the guise of "feminism" and "eqality.". The pill, sexual liberation and the mainstreaming of homosexuality are all part of it.
The aim is to degrade depopulate and destabilize humanity by divorcing sex from procreation and by pretending gender roles are social and not biological in origin.
Women have been brainwashed to usurp the male role and abandon the female. The resulting conflict and confusion leads to a breakdown of marriage and family. This produces dysfunctional people who are obsessed with sex and look to the corporate media and state for values and direction.
WOMEN'S SELF DEFEATING BEHAVIOR
Mary identifies the nub of the problem: men "just want sex and refuse to commit."
Young women today act like sex is the only way to attract men. They try to parlay sex appeal into lasting love and family. This is self-defeating. It is sending the wrong message to men.
Ladies, if you want love and family, do not present yourself in sexual terms. Why try to differentiate yourself in terms that practically any young woman can provide? No wonder you are dumped!
Instead present yourself as potential life partners: wives and mothers. In other words, dress modestly and prepare to be indispensable to the man and children you will love. Learn the skills of a homemaker and helpmate.
Yesterday a female cashier at Safeway shocked me by smiling. I quickly realized that it was part of her job. Female charm (warmth, grace, cheerfulness, attentiveness, modesty) have been crushed under the jackboot of feminism.
Ladies, make sure a man is worthy of you. Don't get involved with sexual nomads who haven't time for courtship and marriage.
Sex is the sacred ritual of procreation. Sex should always take place in the context of love, preferably marriage.
Our children are literally part of us. They represent our organic growth. It is healthy, natural and normal to feel possessive about them. They are us.
Promiscuity is not normal or natural for heterosexuals. As I have said elsewhere, the heterosexual bond is built on trust. Trust is based on monogamy.
The Illuminist cult that rules the world portrays traditional morality as "old fashioned." Traditional morality represents the accumulated wisdom of mankind regarding happiness. Our moral conduct contributes more to our health than diet and exercise.
Monogamy is good for men too. A friend wrote: "Men get their sense of self worth from the love and respect they get from their families, the honest production they create at the work place and they feel good about what they are doing when they believe that they are building a better world for their children. All of this has been taken from us Henry. It is so sickening that very few men have the courage to look at any part of it."
Women also depend on a man (their husband) for personal fulfillment. This is why they obsess about love and marriage.
In marriage, a man assumes a responsibility to fulfill his wife as a woman, i.e. as a life partner and mother. Women are different from men. They are instruments, vehicles. They need to be cared for and used for a higher purpose or they will rot on the vine or explode with frustration.
Sex is a small part of life. We live in a bizarre precarious world and we need to choose real people with character and ability to be our mates. Love grows from day-to-day caring over a long period of time.
THE FOCUS OF MARRIAGE
Marriage is not about sex and mutual adoration. That gets boring fast. It is about getting things done, doing God's work at home and in society.
They've tried to discredit God by blaming Him for everything that goes wrong. God is not a fixer: He is a spiritual ideal: absolute truth, justice, goodness and love. Our ability to perceive these ideals is what makes us human.
We are intended to embody these ideals and bring them into the world. If we don't, it won't happen and we will deservedly suffer the consequences. So will our progeny. Most people care about their children but pay little heed to the real state of the world they will inhabit.
Thus the proper focus of marriage is not the man and woman, but on God. In particular, the man should have a vision of how he will serve God. The wife should choose a man whose vision she can share.
What do women really want? They want to weave a web of love. This is a family devoted to spiritual ideals.
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Henry Makow received his Ph.D. in English Literature from the University of Toronto in 1982. He welcomes your comments at